When you shop for a sex toy, the material is one of the most important choices you will make. It affects how the toy feels, how long it lasts, how easy it is to clean and which lubricants you can use. Here is a simple comparison of the three materials you will see most often.

Silicone

Silicone is the most popular body-safe material. It is non-porous, which means bacteria cannot hide in the surface, and it can be washed thoroughly with warm soapy water. It feels silky, warms to body temperature and lasts for years with good care.

• Pros: body-safe, hygienic, durable, easy to clean
• Cons: usually costs a little more; do not use silicone-based lube on it

TPE (thermoplastic elastomer)

TPE is soft, stretchy and often used for realistic toys because it feels very lifelike. It is more porous than silicone, so it needs thorough cleaning and complete drying after each use.

• Pros: realistic feel, affordable
• Cons: slightly porous, needs extra care, can wear faster

Jelly

Jelly toys are very flexible and often translucent. They are budget-friendly and fun, but jelly is the most porous of the three. Clean it carefully, store it separately and consider using it with a condom for easier cleaning.

• Pros: flexible, colourful, low price
• Cons: porous, shorter lifespan, needs careful cleaning

Which lubricant should you use?

Water-based lubricant is safe with every material. Silicone-based lube lasts longer but can damage silicone toys, so keep it for TPE or glass toys only.

Our recommendation

If you want one toy that will last, choose silicone. If you want a realistic feel at a lower price, TPE is a good option. Explore our vibrators and dildos – every product page lists the material so you can choose with confidence.

Buying your first dildo can feel like a big step, but it does not need to be complicated. With a few simple questions – size, material and shape – you can find a toy that feels comfortable and enjoyable from day one. This guide walks you through everything you need to know.

1. Start with a comfortable size

Bigger is not better when you are starting out. Most beginners are happiest with a dildo between 5 and 7 inches long, with a moderate width. Check the insertable length and the diameter in the product description, and compare it with something familiar before you buy. You can always size up later.

2. Choose a body-safe material

The material matters more than almost anything else. Look for body-safe silicone or high-quality TPE. Silicone is non-porous, easy to clean and feels soft yet firm. Jelly toys are cheaper and more flexible, but they need more careful cleaning. Read our guide to sex toy materials for a full comparison.

3. Realistic or fantasy?

Realistic dildos are shaped and textured like the real thing, which many people find reassuring for a first toy. Fantasy dildos come in bold shapes and colours and are great if you want something playful and different. Neither is better – it simply comes down to what excites you.

4. Why a suction cup base is worth it

A suction cup base lets you attach your dildo to any smooth surface – a shower wall, a tiled floor or a mirror – for hands-free play. It also acts as a flared base, which is an important safety feature for any toy used anally.

5. Always use lubricant

A good lubricant makes everything more comfortable. Use a water-based lube with silicone toys, because silicone-based lube can damage silicone surfaces over time.

6. Keep it clean

Wash your toy before and after every use with warm water and mild, unscented soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, then let it dry fully. Our cleaning and storage guide explains exactly how.

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