Buying your first dildo can feel like a big step, but it does not need to be complicated. With a few simple questions – size, material and shape – you can find a toy that feels comfortable and enjoyable from day one. This guide walks you through everything you need to know.
1. Start with a comfortable size
Bigger is not better when you are starting out. Most beginners are happiest with a dildo between 5 and 7 inches long, with a moderate width. Check the insertable length and the diameter in the product description, and compare it with something familiar before you buy. You can always size up later.
2. Choose a body-safe material
The material matters more than almost anything else. Look for body-safe silicone or high-quality TPE. Silicone is non-porous, easy to clean and feels soft yet firm. Jelly toys are cheaper and more flexible, but they need more careful cleaning. Read our guide to sex toy materials for a full comparison.
3. Realistic or fantasy?
Realistic dildos are shaped and textured like the real thing, which many people find reassuring for a first toy. Fantasy dildos come in bold shapes and colours and are great if you want something playful and different. Neither is better – it simply comes down to what excites you.
4. Why a suction cup base is worth it
A suction cup base lets you attach your dildo to any smooth surface – a shower wall, a tiled floor or a mirror – for hands-free play. It also acts as a flared base, which is an important safety feature for any toy used anally.
5. Always use lubricant
A good lubricant makes everything more comfortable. Use a water-based lube with silicone toys, because silicone-based lube can damage silicone surfaces over time.
6. Keep it clean
Wash your toy before and after every use with warm water and mild, unscented soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, then let it dry fully. Our cleaning and storage guide explains exactly how.
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