Buying intimate products online should feel comfortable, not stressful. If you are worried about who might see the parcel, what the packaging says or what appears on your bank statement, this guide explains exactly what to expect when you order from DingDong Pleasure in the UK. Everything below matches our shipping policy.

The short version

• Every order arrives in a plain, unmarked box with no logos, branding or description of the contents on the outside.
• The sender name on the label is generic and does not reveal what is inside.
• Your card statement shows a discreet business name, not product details.
• Every UK order comes with tracking by email.
• We deliver within the United Kingdom only: England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.

What the packaging looks like

Your order is shipped in a plain, unmarked box. There is no company branding, no logo and no indication of the contents on the exterior. The return address on the label shows a generic business name that does not reveal the nature of the goods. To anyone who sees the parcel, it looks like any other online order.

What appears on your bank statement

Many customers worry about this more than the parcel itself. Your card statement will show a discreet business name rather than “DingDong Pleasure” or any product details. Payments are processed securely through a compliant payment provider, and our site uses SSL encryption to protect your personal and payment information.

Delivery times and costs

Orders are processed within 1–2 business days (Monday to Friday, excluding UK bank holidays) and are dispatched with Evri. Delivery times below start from the day of dispatch.

• Standard shipping: £4.99, delivered within 3–5 business days.
• Express shipping: £6.99, delivered within 1–2 business days.
• Free standard shipping on orders over £50.

Tracking your order

Once your order has been dispatched, you will receive a tracking link by email, so you know roughly when it will arrive and can plan to be home.

What if you are not home?

Someone needs to be available to receive the parcel and, where required, sign for it. If delivery is unsuccessful, the courier will leave a card with instructions for redelivery or collection from a local depot. Parcels are typically held for 7–14 days before being returned to us. If you would prefer to avoid a missed delivery, consider choosing a time when you will be at home, or using the tracking link to follow it.

Do you ship outside the UK?

No. We currently ship to addresses in the United Kingdom only, and we do not ship internationally at this time.

What if my parcel is late or lost?

If your order has not arrived within the expected timeframe, contact us at contact@dingdongpleasure.co.uk. We investigate lost parcels within 48 hours of being notified and will arrange a replacement or a full refund where the parcel cannot be found.

Tips for extra privacy

• Choose a delivery address where you can receive parcels. A trusted neighbour, your workplace (if allowed) or a collection point may suit some people.
• Use the tracking link so you know when it is arriving.
• Use guest checkout if you prefer not to create an account. You do not need an account to order.
• Keep your own email private. Dispatch and tracking emails will go to the address you provide at checkout.

Age and safety

All our products are for adults aged 18 and over. Once your order arrives, read our guide to cleaning your toys safely and our guide to choosing a lubricant before you use them.

Frequently asked questions

Will anyone know what is inside?

No. The box is plain and unmarked with no description of the contents, and the sender name is generic. See our full FAQ for more.

Can I order as a guest?

Yes. You do not need an account to checkout, although an account lets you track orders and save addresses.

Is delivery free?

Standard UK delivery is free on orders over £50. Below that it costs £4.99, or £6.99 for express.

Do I have to sign for my parcel?

Where the courier requires it, yes. If nobody is available, the courier will leave a card with redelivery or collection instructions.

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Lubricant makes almost everything more comfortable, but the wrong one can damage your toys or irritate your skin. The two most common types are water-based and silicone-based, and they behave very differently. This guide explains the difference, which one suits which toy, and how to choose with confidence. It is general information. Always check the label of both your lubricant and your toy.

The short answer

• Water-based lubricant is the safe, all-round choice. It works with most toy materials, including silicone, and with condoms.
• Silicone-based lubricant lasts longer and is very slippery, but it can damage the surface of silicone toys. Use it with toys made from other materials only if the maker says it is safe.

If you only buy one, buy water-based.

Water-based lubricant

Advantages

• Compatible with most toys, including silicone, and with latex condoms.
• Washes off easily with water and does not stain sheets as much.
• Widely available and usually cheaper.

Disadvantages

• It can dry out or become sticky, so you may need to reapply.
• Some formulas contain glycerin, parabens or fragrance, which can irritate sensitive skin. Look for simple, fragrance-free ones.

Silicone-based lubricant

Advantages

• Long-lasting and very smooth, so it is often chosen for longer sessions.
• Does not dry out quickly, and some types can be used in water.

Disadvantages

• Can damage silicone toys. It can make the surface soft, sticky or rough over time. Do not use it with silicone toys unless the maker specifically says it is fine.
• Harder to wash off, and it can leave marks on fabrics.
• Usually more expensive.

What about oil-based lubricants?

Oils such as baby oil, coconut oil or massage oil should not be used with latex condoms, because they can weaken the latex. They can also be difficult to clean from some toys and can leave residue. Unless a product is designed for the purpose and the label says so, it is safer to avoid them.

Which lubricant for which toy?

Because toys are made from different materials, always check the product page and the maker’s advice.

• Silicone toys: use water-based lubricant. Many of our vibrators and dildos are made from silicone, but check the description of the individual product.
• Jelly, TPE and soft porous materials: water-based lubricant is usually the safest choice. Avoid silicone-based and oil-based types unless the maker says they are safe.
• Glass, metal and hard plastic: usually compatible with any lubricant, but follow the manufacturer’s advice.

If you are unsure of the material, use water-based lubricant and test a small amount on a hidden spot first.

Lubricant and condoms

Water-based and silicone-based lubricants are generally compatible with latex condoms. Oil-based products are not. Check the lubricant label if you are using condoms for protection or to cover a toy.

How to choose a good lubricant

• Read the ingredients. Simple formulas with few additives are usually gentler.
• Go fragrance-free if you have sensitive skin.
• Check it is body-safe and made for intimate use.
• Test a small amount on your inner arm first if you have allergies or sensitive skin.
• Look at the bottle. A pump is easier than a flip-top when your hands are slippery.

How much should you use?

More than you think. Start with a generous amount and reapply when needed. There is no such thing as too much, and it makes everything more comfortable. It also matters for comfort when you are trying something new, for example in our guides for couples and for beginners with butt plugs.

Cleaning up

Wash toys after each use with warm water and mild soap. Silicone-based lubricant can need a bit more washing than water-based. Our full guide to cleaning sex toys explains the routine, drying and storage in detail.

Frequently asked questions

Can I use water-based lubricant with all toys?

It is the safest choice for most toys, but always check the toy’s instructions.

Will silicone lubricant really damage a silicone toy?

It can. Over time, it can break down the surface, leaving it sticky or rough. Use water-based lubricant instead.

Can I use saliva?

It dries quickly and does not protect well against friction. A proper lubricant is more comfortable.

How long does lubricant last once opened?

Most last a year or two. Check the label, and throw it away if it smells or looks different.

Is lubricant only for toys?

No. Many people use it with a partner, with or without toys, to make things more comfortable.

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In short

Choose water-based lubricant if you are unsure, check the label, and keep silicone-based lubricant away from silicone toys. Looking for your next toy? Browse our vibrators and dildos, or read our guide to dildo sizes. All our products are for adults aged 18 and over and ship in plain, unbranded packaging across the UK.

Keeping your toys clean is the single most important thing you can do for your comfort and health. It is also very simple once you know the routine. This guide explains how to clean intimate toys safely, how the material changes what you should do, and how to dry and store them properly. It is general advice: always follow the maker’s instructions for your specific product.

The quick version

1. Wash the toy before and after every use.
2. Use warm water and mild, unscented soap, or a dedicated toy cleaner.
3. Rinse well and dry fully with a clean towel or let it air-dry.
4. Store it clean and dry in its own pouch, away from other toys.

Why cleaning matters

Bacteria and residue can build up on any toy, and reusing a dirty toy can irritate the skin and increase the risk of infection. Cleaning after use also keeps the surface fresh, helps toys last longer and prevents unpleasant smells. Cleaning before use removes dust and anything picked up in storage.

First, check the material and the controls

How you clean a toy depends on what it is made from and whether it contains electronics.

• Silicone is smooth and non-porous, so it is the easiest to clean. Warm water and mild soap are usually enough. Many vibrators and dildos are made from it, but always check the description of the individual product.
• Jelly, TPE and other soft materials are often more porous. They can hold on to bacteria and absorb oils, and some cannot be sterilised. Clean them gently with mild soap and water, dry them completely, and consider using a condom for extra protection.
• Hard plastic (ABS), glass and metal are generally easy to wash with soap and warm water.
• Electronic toys need extra care. Check whether the toy is waterproof or only splash-resistant before putting it in water.

If you are not sure what a toy is made from, treat it as the more delicate type and clean it gently. Our guide to choosing the right size and our guide for couples include more tips on picking suitable products.

How to clean a toy step by step

1. Prepare

Turn the toy off. If it is rechargeable, unplug it from the charger. Remove any removable parts, such as batteries or bullets, where the maker allows this.

2. Wash

Use warm (not hot) water and a small amount of mild, unscented soap. Wash all surfaces, including grooves, ridges and the base. Use your hands or a soft cloth rather than anything abrasive.

3. Rinse

Rinse thoroughly until no soap is left. Soap residue can irritate sensitive skin.

4. Dry

Pat the toy dry with a clean towel or paper towel, or leave it to air-dry on a clean surface. Make sure it is fully dry before storing it, because moisture encourages bacteria.

5. Store

Keep each toy in its own breathable pouch, in a cool, dry place, away from heat and sunlight.

Waterproof, splash-proof and not waterproof

• Waterproof toys can be washed under running water. Check the product description for the exact rating.
• Splash-resistant toys should not be submerged. Wipe them with a damp cloth and mild soap, then rinse the cloth and wipe again.
• Not waterproof: wipe with a damp, soapy cloth and take care that no water reaches the controls, the charging port or the battery compartment.

Never put a toy in a dishwasher, microwave or washing machine unless the manufacturer explicitly says it is safe.

Toy cleaners, wipes and disinfectants

A dedicated toy cleaner is a convenient option, especially while travelling, but plain soap and water is perfectly adequate for most toys. Avoid harsh household products such as bleach, strong detergents and products containing alcohol or fragrance unless the maker says they are safe for your toy, as they can damage some materials and irritate your skin.

Lubricant matters too

The wrong lubricant can damage a toy. Water-based lubricant is generally safe for most materials, including silicone. Silicone-based lubricant can break down the surface of silicone toys over time, so do not use it with them. If you are unsure, check the packaging or the maker’s instructions.

Sharing toys and switching between uses

• If a toy is shared between partners, clean it between uses, or cover it with a fresh condom each time.
• Do not move a toy from anal to vaginal use without washing it thoroughly or changing the condom. Our anal toys should always have a flared base for safety, see our beginner’s guide to butt plugs.
• Do not share toys with people outside your own relationship.

Looking after rechargeable toys

• Charge fully before the first use and follow the maker’s charging instructions.
• Make sure the charging port and the toy are dry before you charge.
• Do not leave a toy charging for days.
• If the toy stops working or looks damaged, stop using it.

Storage tips

• Keep toys of different materials apart. Some materials can react with each other and become sticky or damaged.
• Use the pouch that came with the toy, or a clean cotton bag.
• Avoid plastic bags that trap moisture.
• Store them somewhere private, cool and dry.

When to stop using a toy

Replace a toy if it becomes sticky, cracked, torn, discoloured or smelly even after cleaning, or if it irritates your skin. If you notice soreness, itching or unusual discharge after using a toy, stop and speak to your doctor or a sexual health clinic.

Frequently asked questions

How often should I clean my toys?

Before and after every use. If a toy has been stored for a while, clean it before using it too.

Can I use baby wipes?

It is better not to, because wipes often contain fragrance and other ingredients that can irritate the skin or damage some materials. Use mild soap and water or a toy cleaner.

Can I boil silicone toys?

Some solid silicone toys can be boiled, but many toys contain electronics, and others are made of different materials. Always check the manufacturer’s instructions first. Never boil a toy that contains a motor or battery.

What if I am not sure what material it is?

Treat it as delicate. Clean it with mild soap and warm water, dry it carefully, and use a condom. Read the product page for details about its material.

Do I need to clean a new toy?

Yes. Wash it before the first use to remove dust from manufacturing and packaging.

Toys worth looking after

In short

A few minutes of care after each use keeps your toys safer, fresher and longer-lasting. Browse our vibrators and dildos, or read our comparison of vibrator types if you are choosing your next one. All our products are for adults aged 18 and over and are delivered in plain, unbranded packaging across the UK.

Busy weeks, work, family life and tiredness can all take the edge off romance. That is completely normal, and it does not mean something is wrong with your relationship. The good news is that small, regular efforts usually matter more than big gestures. Here are practical, relaxed ideas to bring more closeness back, whether you have been together for two years or twenty.

Why the spark fades, and why that is normal

At the start of a relationship, everything is new. As time passes, routine takes over: shared bills, school runs, work stress, and the sofa after a long day. Closeness does not disappear, but it often gets pushed to the bottom of the list. Desire is also affected by sleep, stress, health, medication, age and life events. Understanding this helps you approach it kindly instead of blaming yourself or your partner.

1. Make time on purpose

Intimacy rarely turns up by itself once life gets busy. Put time in the diary, even if it is just one evening every week or two. Phones away, no to-do list, and no pressure for it to lead anywhere. Time together without distraction is what matters. Date nights do not have to cost much: cook something new, walk somewhere you have not been, or simply sit and talk with a glass of wine.

2. Talk about what you enjoy

Many long-term couples have never really talked about what they like, what they would like to try, or how things have changed over the years. A relaxed chat over dinner or on a walk is a good place to start. Share something you appreciate about your partner first, then something you are curious about. Ask open questions and listen to the answer without defending yourself.

• “What is something you have always wanted to try?”
• “What makes you feel closest to me?”
• “Is there anything you would like more of, or less of?”

3. Try something new, together

Novelty is one of the easiest ways to feel more connected, and it does not need to be dramatic:

• Plan a surprise evening in, with candles, music and a favourite meal.
• Choose something new to wear. A set from our lingerie collection can change the mood of a whole evening, and our guide on how to choose lingerie for a special night can help you pick.
• Explore a toy together. A vibrator chosen by both of you adds playfulness and gives you something fun to talk about. See our guide to getting started as a couple and our guide to remote control vibrators.
• Learn something together, such as a dance class or a cooking course. Shared new experiences build closeness.

4. Focus on touch, not only on sex

Hugs, massage, holding hands and cuddling on the sofa all keep a physical connection going. They also make it easier to move into something more intimate when you both feel like it, without anyone feeling pressured. Try a ten-minute massage with no goal beyond relaxing, or agree a regular time to cuddle without screens.

5. Take the pressure off

When intimacy feels like a test, it becomes harder. Agree that some evenings are just for closeness, with no expectation. Paradoxically, removing the pressure often makes things easier and more enjoyable. Remember that wanting different things at different times is normal.

6. Look after yourselves

Good sleep, regular movement, time outdoors and managing stress all affect how close you feel to a partner. It is difficult to feel playful when you are exhausted. Small improvements, like going to bed at the same time or sharing household tasks more fairly, can help more than people expect.

7. Keep a sense of humour

Not everything will go to plan, and that is fine. Laughing together when something is awkward is a sign of a comfortable relationship. Do not take it all too seriously.

If things feel stuck

If one of you feels differently from the other, talk about it kindly, without blame. If it continues to worry you, or if there are medical issues, pain or low mood involved, a doctor or a qualified relationship or psychosexual counsellor can help. Asking for help is a sign of caring about the relationship, not of failing at it.

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A final thought

You do not need to buy anything for a happy relationship. But if you both feel curious, a little playfulness can go a long way. Take your time, check in with each other and enjoy it. Our store is for adults aged 18 and over, with plain, unbranded packaging and discreet delivery across the UK.

Sex toys are far more common than many people think. Surveys regularly find that a large share of adults have used one at some point, alone or with a partner. This guide takes an honest look at the benefits people commonly describe, for singles and couples, and explains how to use toys safely. It is general information, not medical advice, and we have avoided making claims that cannot be backed up.

Commonly reported benefits

Relaxation and stress relief

Many people say that taking time for themselves, with no pressure or interruptions, helps them unwind at the end of a busy day. Relaxing, enjoyable touch is widely seen as part of a healthy approach to wellbeing.

Better self-knowledge

Exploring what feels good helps you understand your own body. That knowledge makes it easier to tell a partner what you enjoy, and to enjoy yourself more. Sex educators often describe this self-awareness as one of the biggest benefits of using toys.

More variety and curiosity

A toy can add new sensations and ideas without anything complicated. For long-term couples especially, variety is a simple way to keep things interesting. See our comparison of rabbit, G-spot and wand vibrators for an idea of how different types feel.

Easier communication between partners

Couples often say that choosing and trying a toy opens up honest conversation. It gives you a concrete, low-pressure way to talk about preferences, boundaries and ideas. Read more in our guide to toys for couples.

Flexibility

Toys can be enjoyed alone, together, or even when partners are apart. A remote control vibrator lets one partner control the toy from across the room, or from a different place entirely.

Inclusivity and accessibility

Toys can suit people of any gender, orientation or physical ability. For some people, certain toys make intimacy more comfortable and more accessible, for example when stamina, mobility or sensitivity is a factor.

Is it healthy?

For most healthy adults, using body-safe toys sensibly is considered normal and safe. Many sex therapists and educators suggest toys can be a useful addition to a healthy sex life. That said, everyone is different. If you have a medical condition, pain during intimacy, are pregnant, recovering from surgery, or are unsure whether something suits you, speak to your doctor or a sexual health clinic first. It is also worth saying that there is no obligation to use toys: many people enjoy a fulfilling sex life without them.

Choosing body-safe products

Material matters more than most people realise. Look for:

• Silicone. It is non-porous, easy to clean, smooth and widely recommended. Many of the products in our vibrator range and dildo range are made from silicone. Check each product page for the material.
• Clear information. Reputable sellers say what a toy is made of. Be cautious of vague descriptions.
• Smell. A strong chemical smell can be a warning sign with cheaper materials.
• Appropriate design. Anything intended for anal use should have a flared base. See our guide to butt plugs for beginners.

Using toys safely

• Clean before and after use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Dry fully before storing.
• Use the right lubricant. Water-based lubricant is safe with silicone toys. Silicone-based lubricant can damage silicone toys.
• Do not share toys between partners without cleaning them, or use a fresh condom each time.
• Never move from anal to vaginal use with the same toy without cleaning it thoroughly or changing the condom.
• Stop if anything hurts. Discomfort is a sign to pause, not to push on.
• Start slowly. Use the lowest setting first and increase gradually.
• Store sensibly. Keep toys in separate clean pouches, away from heat and from toys made from other materials.

Choosing the right size and type

Bigger is not always better. Comfort matters far more than size. If you are unsure, start smaller and slimmer, then move up if you want to. Our guide to dildo sizes explains how to think about length and girth.

Where to start

If you are new, choose something simple, quiet and rechargeable, and take it slowly. If you are buying for a partner, ask them first rather than surprising them, as preferences vary a lot. Browse together if you can, and agree what you both feel comfortable trying.

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Privacy and discretion

Many people worry about how a purchase will show up on a bank statement or at the front door. We ship in plain, unbranded packaging across the UK, and you can read more on our shipping page.

Everything we sell is for adults aged 18 or over and ships in plain, unbranded packaging across the UK.

For many couples, a toy is not a shortcut or a fix for a problem. It is simply one more way to explore each other, have fun and feel closer. Used together, it can start honest conversations, add playfulness and help both partners relax. This guide explains why that often happens, how to raise the subject without awkwardness, and how to choose, use and care for a first toy as a couple.

Why playing together can bring you closer

Talking about what you enjoy is not always easy, even in a loving, long-term relationship. Many of us were never taught how to do it, and it can feel safer to say nothing. Choosing a toy together gives you a gentle, low-pressure reason to start. You share ideas, find out what your partner is curious about and agree on what feels comfortable. Many couples find that this openness carries over into other areas of the relationship too.

• Better communication. Saying what you like, and what you do not, becomes easier with practice. A toy gives you something concrete to talk about instead of vague hints.
• Shared novelty. Doing something new together is one of the simplest ways to keep a relationship feeling fresh. It does not need to be dramatic.
• Less pressure. A toy can take the focus off performance and put it back on enjoyment and curiosity.
• More trust. Agreeing on boundaries and then respecting them builds confidence on both sides.
• More fun. Laughing together, even awkwardly the first time, is part of what makes couples feel close.

Common worries, and how to think about them

It is normal to feel a little nervous about the idea. These are the worries couples mention most often.

“Will it replace me?”

A toy is an addition, not a replacement. It does not do what a partner does: the closeness, the attention, the connection. Most couples who use toys describe them as something they enjoy together, not instead of each other.

“Is it a sign that something is wrong?”

No. Plenty of happy couples use toys simply because they are curious. Wanting to try something new says nothing negative about your relationship.

“What if one of us is less keen?”

That is fine and quite common. Go at the slower person’s pace, and never push. Sometimes it helps to start with something small, such as browsing together without buying anything, and see how it feels.

How to bring it up

Choose a relaxed moment, not the middle of an argument or a hectic evening. Keep it light and curious rather than serious. For example: “I saw something that looks fun. Would you like to look at it with me?” Then listen as much as you talk.

• Start with what you appreciate about your partner and your relationship.
• Use “I” statements: “I would like to try…” works better than “You never…”.
• Accept “not sure yet” as a real answer, without sulking or asking again straight away.
• Agree that either of you can pause or stop at any time, with no explanation needed.

Choosing your first toy together

Browsing together is half the fun. For a first purchase, simple and easy to use is best. A few good starting points:

• Vibrators come in many shapes and are easy to share. Remote control models are especially popular with couples, because one partner can hold the control. Read our guide to remote control vibrators, and our comparison of rabbit, G-spot and wand vibrators if you are not sure which type suits you.
• For couples who prefer something a little more adventurous, our dildo range includes suction cup models that free up both hands.
• Choose body-safe materials such as silicone, and look for something rechargeable and quiet if privacy matters to you.
• Lingerie can be part of the fun too, and sets the mood without needing a toy at all.

For more ideas on getting started, read our simple guide to sex toys for couples.

Making the first time relaxed

• Set the scene. Warm lighting, music and no interruptions help a lot. Switch phones to silent.
• Start slowly. Begin on the lowest setting and build up. Let the toy be part of the evening, not the whole of it.
• Use lubricant. Water-based lubricant is safe with silicone toys and makes everything more comfortable.
• Keep talking. Check in with simple questions: “Is this nice?” “More or less?”
• Agree a stop signal. A word or gesture that means “pause” makes it easier for both of you to relax.
• Do not expect perfection. It may feel awkward or funny the first time. That is completely normal.

Looking after your toys

Clean every toy before and after each use with warm water and mild soap, or a dedicated toy cleaner. Dry it fully and store it in a clean bag or pouch, away from other toys, since different materials can react with each other. If you share a toy between partners, clean it between uses, and use a condom on it where appropriate. Charge rechargeable toys fully before first use and follow the maker’s instructions.

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Keep it going

After the first time, check in with each other. What did you enjoy? What would you change? Small, regular conversations like this are what turn a one-off experiment into a more open, relaxed and playful relationship.

Every couple is different. There is no right pace and nothing you have to try. The aim is simply to enjoy each other more, in a way that feels good to you both. All our products are for adults aged 18 and over, and are delivered in plain, unbranded packaging across the UK.

Size is the question most people have when buying a dildo – and the one that makes the biggest difference to comfort. This guide explains what the numbers mean and how to choose the right size for you.

Length vs insertable length

The total length is measured from tip to base. The insertable length is shorter, because the base (often a suction cup) cannot be inserted. When comparing toys, the insertable length is the more useful figure.

Girth and diameter

Diameter is how wide the toy is across; girth is the distance around it. For most people, width affects comfort far more than length. A modest increase in diameter feels much bigger than a longer toy.

Which size is right for you?

• Beginners: around 5–7 inches long with a moderate width. Our 7-inch realistic dildo is a comfortable starting point.
• Intermediate: 7–8 inches with a fuller girth, such as our 7.5-inch purple dildo or the softer clear jelly dildo.
• Experienced: 9 inches and above, like the 9.1-inch realistic dildo or the large blue dildo at 10.6 inches.

How to measure at home

Use a ruler and a soft tape measure on a familiar object or a toy you already own. Compare its length and width with the product details before you buy – it is the easiest way to avoid surprises.

Tips for sizing up

Move up gradually, use plenty of water-based lubricant and take your time. There is never any need to rush. If you are just starting out, our first dildo guide covers the basics.

Browse by size

Explore our dildos collection – every product lists its size, and all orders are delivered across the UK in plain, discreet packaging.

Prostate massagers have become one of the most popular toys for people with a prostate who want to explore new sensations. If you are curious but not sure where to start, this guide covers the basics in plain language.

What is a prostate massager?

A prostate massager is a curved toy designed to reach the prostate, a small gland located a few inches inside the body, towards the front. Many people find gentle pressure there very pleasurable. The curve of the toy does the work of finding the right spot, so you can focus on relaxing.

What to look for in your first massager

• A gentle curve: designed to angle towards the prostate naturally.
• A flared or wide base: essential for safety – it stops the toy from going in too far.
• Body-safe silicone: smooth, non-porous and easy to clean.
• A moderate size: slim is best when you are starting out.

Our Prostate Massager Pro has a curved, textured shaft and a wide base for control, while the remote control prostate massager adds wireless control for hands-free play.

How to get started

1. Relax: choose a time when you are not rushed and feel comfortable.
2. Use plenty of lube: a generous amount of water-based lubricant is essential.
3. Go slowly: insert gently and let your body adjust. Never force anything.
4. Experiment with position: lying on your side or back often makes things easier.
5. Listen to your body: if something hurts, stop.

If you are completely new to anal play, it can help to start with a small plug first. Our butt plugs for beginners guide explains how.

Vibrating or non-vibrating?

Many prostate massagers include vibration, which adds extra sensation. Remote control models let you, or a partner, change the mode without reaching for the toy. For more ideas, read our remote control vibrators guide.

Cleaning and care

Wash your massager before and after every use with warm water and mild, unscented soap or a toy cleaner, and let it dry fully. See our cleaning and storage guide for details.

Browse our range

Explore our anal toys collection, including prostate massagers and butt plugs in body-safe materials, delivered across the UK in plain, discreet packaging.

A suction cup base turns a dildo into a hands-free toy. Stick it to a smooth surface and you are free to move, change positions and set your own rhythm. Here is how to get the most out of a suction cup dildo.

How does a suction cup dildo work?

The flexible base creates a vacuum when you press it firmly against a flat, smooth, non-porous surface. The air is pushed out and the base grips in place. It also doubles as a flared base, which is an important safety feature if you use the toy anally.

The best surfaces

• Bathroom tiles and shower walls – smooth, easy to clean and ideal for shower play
• Glass and mirrors – very strong grip
• Smooth laminate or tiled floors – good for riding positions
• A smooth chair or bathtub edge – as long as the surface is flat

Avoid wood grain, fabric, carpet and textured surfaces – the base will not seal properly.

Tips for a strong grip

1. Make sure the surface and the base are clean and dry.
2. A tiny drop of water on the base can help it seal better.
3. Press firmly in the centre and push outwards to remove all the air.
4. Give it a gentle test pull before you use it.
5. Keep lubricant away from the base – lube makes it slip.

Positions to try

On the floor or a chair, a suction cup dildo lets you ride and control depth and pace yourself. On a shower wall, it is perfect for standing play. Start slowly, use a generous amount of water-based lubricant on the toy itself and find the angle that feels best for you.

Which suction cup dildo should you choose?

For a first toy, try our 7-inch realistic suction cup dildo. For something softer and more budget-friendly, the clear jelly suction cup dildo is a great choice. Experienced users may prefer the 9.1-inch or large blue models, while the fantasy bee dildo offers something more playful. Not sure about style? Read Realistic vs Fantasy Dildos.

Cleaning and care

Wash the whole toy, including the base, before and after use with warm water and mild soap, and let it dry fully. Store it away from other toys and dust so the base stays clean and sticky. Our cleaning and storage guide has more tips.

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Bringing a toy into your relationship is a great way to try something new together. It does not replace anything – it simply adds more ways to enjoy each other. This guide will help you start the conversation and choose your first couples toy.

1. Start with a relaxed conversation

Choose a calm moment, not the middle of things. Keep it light and positive: “I saw something that might be fun to try together.” Ask what your partner is curious about, share your own ideas and agree that either of you can say no or pause at any time.

2. Choose a toy you both like

Browsing together is half the fun. These are some of the easiest toys for couples:

• Remote control vibrators – one person wears or uses the toy, the other holds the remote. Our wireless love egg and remote control rabbit vibrator are popular choices. Read our remote control vibrators guide for ideas.
• Slim vibrators – small, simple and easy to use during foreplay. See our slim vibrators guide.
• Prostate massagers – a way for partners with a prostate to explore new sensations. Start with our beginner’s guide.
• Lingerie – not a toy, but a simple way to set the mood. Browse our lingerie collection.

3. Start slowly

Use the toy during foreplay first, keep the intensity low and build up. Check in with each other and laugh if things feel awkward – that is completely normal the first time.

4. Take turns being in control

Toys with remotes or multiple modes make it easy to share control. Swapping roles keeps things playful and helps you both learn what you enjoy.

5. Lubricant and hygiene

A water-based lubricant makes everything more comfortable and is safe with silicone toys. Clean your toys before and after each use, and never move a toy from anal to vaginal use without washing it first. Our cleaning guide explains how.

6. Talk afterwards

Share what you liked and what you would change. Every conversation makes the next experience better.

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