Once you have decided to buy a dildo, the next big question is style: do you want something that looks and feels like the real thing, or something bold, colourful and completely different? Both have their fans. This guide explains the differences so you can choose with confidence.
What is a realistic dildo?
Realistic dildos are designed to look and feel lifelike, with natural contours, a defined head and often a textured shaft. Many people find them reassuring, especially for a first toy, because the shape feels familiar. Our 7-inch realistic suction cup dildo is a popular starting point, while the 9.1-inch and large blue models suit more experienced users.
What is a fantasy dildo?
Fantasy dildos take their inspiration from imagination rather than anatomy. Expect unusual shapes, ridges, bold colours and unique textures that create sensations a realistic toy cannot. If you want something playful, try our fantasy bee silicone dildo or the textured fantasy alien dildo.
Size: start where you are comfortable
Whatever style you choose, size matters more than looks. Beginners are usually happiest between 5 and 7 inches with a moderate width. Fantasy dildos often have wider sections or pronounced ridges, so check the dimensions carefully. Our first dildo guide explains how to pick the right size.
Material: silicone or jelly?
Most of our realistic and fantasy dildos are made from body-safe silicone, which is non-porous, smooth and easy to clean. Jelly dildos, like our clear jelly suction cup dildo, are softer and more affordable but need more careful cleaning. See our guide to sex toy materials for a full comparison.
Why a suction cup base helps
Both styles often come with a suction cup base, which lets you attach the toy to a smooth surface for hands-free play. It also works as a flared base, an important safety feature if you plan to use your dildo anally.
So which should you choose?
- Choose realistic if you want a familiar, natural feel or are buying your first dildo.
- Choose fantasy if you love bold designs and want new, unusual sensations.
- Choose jelly if you want a softer, budget-friendly option.
There is no wrong answer – it all comes down to what excites you. Always use a water-based lubricant and clean your toy before and after use, as explained in our cleaning guide.
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